Hi everyone! So, I’m not really the best person to talk about stopping and smelling the roses, mostly because I’ve never been really good at that when I have specific goals to achieve. In fact, if I have goals, chances are that nothing else in the world will exist for me, especially roses. But when that happens, I have a tendency to burn myself out and end up overcompensating in the other direction (a.k.a. goals suck, let’s just veg in front of Netflix forever). It’s an annoying balancing act that I can never really get… well, balanced.
Is this a common problem among writers? Honestly, I don’t know. A lot of the people I talk to seem to have more problems meeting goals rather than being obsessed with them, so of course I feel like the odd man (woman?) out. I guess my biggest problem is knowing when to let goals slide. Granted, I’m more apt to look at my list of goals and push reading off to make time for writing, but it makes me feel super guilty. I also push the things on my list that are for other people higher than things like my word count. I can always make up my word count tomorrow, right? Like that ever happens. It actually usually means not taking that second day off. *eye-twitch*
And, of course, when I do find a nice balance, I have to start changing things. I recently decided to try upping my word count from 900 words five days a week to 1500 words. Throw some new obligations on top of that, and I end up spending all my time doing everything except having a life. It got a little rough this past week, which is what brought on this ramble.
I needed to stop and take a breath, which I did. I’ve proven to myself that, under normal circumstances, I can do 1500 words five days a week with no problem. Right now, I can’t. As much as it ticks me off to say that, I just can’t do 1500 words AND everything else I need to do AND have time to relax. It’s impossible. Thus, my new plan for balance!
I will continue with the new obligations for as long as they last (three to six months at the moment), because I made a promise, I enjoy what I’m doing, and I’m gaining a lot of experience should I decide to teach at some point in the future. That’s my first priority. Second, instead of worrying about words for a while, I’m going to work on revising my first novel again (surprisingly not as time consuming or stressful as writing all the words!). When I do get back to writing toward a word count, I’ve decided 1000 words are good enough until I have fewer things to worry about. And apparently I have to add a goal to my list that boils down to “have fun away from the computer, or GO OUTSIDE, IDIOT!”
It’s not an easy thing to achieve, but balance is necessary. We can’t always focus on work (that’s a fast-track to insanity), just like we can’t always focus on fun (unless you’re a billionaire, then yeah). Remember to stop and take a breath, or smell the roses, or whatever. Just don’t kill yourself to achieve all the things on a list that doesn’t account for spontaneous interruptions or miscalculated times (we all have those things we say will take half an hour, then three hours later it’s still not done). Take some time and go outside! Or whatever.